10 Surprising Reasons She May Say “Hell No!” to a Second Date

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10 Surprising Reasons She May Say “Hell No!” to a Second Date

And How to Avoid These Common Mistakes So the First Date Always Turns Into A Second (Or Even Same-Night Sex)…

Why do women rule out a man on the first date, and have no interest in going on a second date?

This is a problem/concern I hear a good amount from men–most guys just guess at reasons why she wouldn't go out with them again.


In reality, the reasons she “nexts” you are probably a lot different than you think!

A study in the American Journal of Sociology found that a woman can make up her mind about you within the first four minutes of meeting you–so having a good first date is EXTREMELY important if you want to get laid (or have the option of seeing her again).

Here are 10 of the most common reasons women say no to a second date:

1) Overwhelming her with expectations & the man's ultimate goals:

Many men treat the first date as the golden opportunity to present his future goals for marriage, children, growing old together, trips together, etc. …

…all before the appetizer has even arrived. Not only does it make the man sound desperate & frantic, it takes the woman away from what you ideally want her to feel on the first date. She's now in business mode and contemplating large, life-changing scenarios, instead of enjoying herself, laughing, feeling optimistic and relaxing.

2) Talking negatively about an ex or past relationship:

A huge red flag for myself & many women is hearing a man call a woman “crazy,” especially his ex.

Even if a man feels his ex was truly, certifiably crazy, this is not a date topic. When a man talks negatively about (and complains about) how badly a certain woman hurt him, how she used him, how she spent all of his money, etc., it only shows that he's not in control of his life & outcomes.

And, naturally through evolution, that tells the woman he isn't a good candidate for being a provider & protector.


3) Too touchy-feely:

This one is a true pet-peeve of mine, but I know it is for other women as well. There is nothing sexy about a man that has to constantly rub the lower part of your back, rub your arm when sitting at the table, caress your thigh, stroke your hair, NON-STOP.

Touchy-feely, grabby men drive me NUTS. For starters, it shows the man is insecure and needs the woman's approval.

Secondly, especially on the first date, the woman just most likely won't be “there” yet. Her natural defenses are up, and she's looking high & low for red flags or warning signs which show her safety may be in danger.

4) Little to no eye contact:

If a man isn't confident enough to look the woman in the eye and be engaged in the conversation, it will leave her also feeling uneasy and unsure of the situation/ date/ man.

5) Getting intoxicated:

Oh boy, did this one happen to me a few times- especially when I was in my twenties.

One especially “charming” guy got so drunk (after spending two hours telling me how great he was), he started barfing in the men's room, needed to have his roommate come and claim him, and I got escorted to my car by an uncover police officer who wanted to make sure I made it safely.



He didn't get a second date.

While having a drink or two and relaxing is fine, you want to be on your “A-game,” and being intoxicated (or even having a good buzz) can hamper that significantly.

6) Lack of conversational skills:

This one happens more than you may think, no matter the age of the man. And this is a hard one, because when you're nervous, sometimes you simply forget certain subjects, or even the word you're looking for. I do this too.

But it's important to have various subjects you can speak about, jokes you can tell (memorized), and show that you have diversified interests & knowledge.

Don't be too long-winded on any one subject, unless she's 100% engaged with you and sharing related knowledge & stories herself (or is curious and keeps asking questions).

Before any date, or before approaching a woman, know of at least 5 subjects you can confidently speak about, that aren't potentially offensive or controversial (no politics or Donald Trump, nothing gory, etc.)

7) Showed up looking like a gym rat:

Working out is good, and if you happen to meet for a hike, or to play a sport, then you can wear your gym clothes.

But please oh please, if you're not in the gym or coming directly to or from the gym or a workout/ sport, then athletic shoes, t-shirts, etc., aren't proper, especially at restaurants or meeting at a coffee shop.

I'm possibly more strict on this one than some women (though I know many of my female friends feel the same way I do), but it doesn't take long (and isn't overly expensive) to put on a pair of properly tailored slacks or proper fitting jeans, a dressier shirt or a nice polo shirt. Show off a little style.


8) Rude to others:

It may be to another man sitting at the bar, or the waiter, it doesn't matter, but a common problem I see men have when they feel unsure of themselves & their position, is they try to push others down to build themselves up. There is nothing more unattractive than a pushy, derogatory, negative, jerk. There is no “cocky-funny” in that.

9) Lack of basic manners:

Picking your teeth with a toothpick in front of her will NOT land you a second date.

Blowing your nose at the table will NOT land you a second date.

Spitting on the sidewalk, well, at least it won't land you a second date if the woman has any class.

Things such as picking your teeth & blowing your nose, are (or should be) as private as going potty, so go to the restroom! I see men of all ages pulling this crap, without a second thought. It's disgusting! It shows the man lacks refinement & class.

10) Overdoing the compliments:

Basic compliments (here & there) are fine, but women recognize a man who overdoes it, and she'll know he's trying too hard because he lacks confidence- or he's “just trying to get her into bed.”

How To ALWAYS Make Sure the First Date Goes As Planned…

So now you know what not to do on a first date…

Is there anything you can do to

As you probably already guessed, the answer is “yes.”

But it's not as obvious as “Pay for all her drinks…”

Or, “Be a gentleman…”

It's way more subtle than that.

How do I know this?

Well it's not just because I'm a woman… in fact, our team of experts gathered

… observed and recorded real-life people on dates…

… and we analyzed everything we found, in the hopes of answering one big question:

“What do the guys who always get second dates and first date sex all have in common?”

And we discovered that these successful guys all do 3 specific things, that consistently lead to second dates and sex:

[Note: This post was updated by Gotham Club on August 3, 2019.]


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Bigger Isn't Always Better–Discover The Surprising Benefits of Having a Smaller Penis (& Why Some Women PREFER Them) Below…

I bet if you asked just about anyone, they would tell you that the bigger a guy’s d!ck, the better. 

Well, I’m going to step outside of everyone’s expectations right now and challenge that.

I think that not only can a small penis can be a huge plus when it comes to sex, it can EVEN be preferable. 

(In fact, while only 0.6% of the male population are considered to have a for some women, these smaller penises can often provide a LOT more pleasure.)

Are you surprised? 


Perhaps that’s because we’ve all been conditioned to believe that “bigger is better.” I used to believe this too.

I once walked into a sex shop and bought the biggest dildo they had. Today, I actually regret it. In retrospect, I should have sized down.

And I’ll tell you why.

3 Surprising Reasons a Smaller Penis Will Give Hot Girls a Bigger Smile…

Don’t get me wrong–any d!ck size will have its perks. 

But there can be some issues for the magnum wearers.

The first one is obvious: pain.

For women, a big penis, especially a long one, can cause excruciating pain.

I don’t mean the fun BDSM pain that startles and excites. I mean the pain that causes the body to lock up and shut down.


This is not sexy–this is uncomfortable in the way period cramps are uncomfortable.

It can be frustrating for women and men when the male partner can’t just unleash and thrust as hard and far as he can, since if he does he could seriously hurt the woman.

In this sense, guys with bigger d!cks may not be able to experience the same passion guys with smaller d!cks can.

To not have to hold back is seriously fun and sexy. Every woman wants to experience that side of her man.

Here’s Another Issue With “Monster D!cks”…

Another issue with big penises is that they have a lot of surface area. 

What’s the problem with that? Well, as a woman, that means I have to produce MORE juices to lubricate that thing.

And we only have so much fluid at a given time.

So bigger penises have a tendency of drying out the woman faster, requiring more added lubrication, which can be an interruption at times.

Some women may even believe that they are inadequate for their partner because they are not wet enough, when really, it’s just natural physiology.

Next, let’s talk hardness.


If you have a huge d!ck, I hope you have a LOT of blood to fill it with.

Smaller penises require less blood to fill to maximum hardness.

There is a noticeable difference with smaller guys–it’s just rock hard at all times! This is super sexy.

Often, bigger guys need to put in more effort to stay harder longer, or may ask more of their partner to help manage blood flow.

Now I’m not opposed to giving pleasure to my partner, but sometimes the effort required can become tiring.

With a small penis, it’s easier to stay hard for a long time, regardless of position.

Your Size Is Way Less Important Than Your Blood Flow (Here’s Why)…

And this is the key

If you want AMAZING hot sex, think hardness. 

Not size, but . See, our culture has conditioned us to pay attention to the wrong things. 

And not EVERY culture believes that bigger is better.

I once read about a culture in which small penises were the norm, and these guys would do fun things to give more pleasure to their partners, including piercing their d!cks and even surgically inserting hard materials into the tip of their penis.

See-they KNOW that it’s hardness that matters. Of course, I’m not saying you have to insert a needle into your manhood to satisfy women sexually–definitely not!

But it’s the principle that counts. Hardness matters.

As a woman, I’m happy to have sex with a man with a small penis if he’s going to be rock hard all night! 

So many men are hung (no pun intended) up on size when they should really be focusing on getting hard and staying hard. 

There are SO many ways to enhance a woman’s pleasure, and if we just assume that a big d!ck is all you need, then there are going to be a lot of underwhelmed women out there.

What a woman craves is a d!ck that can get hard fast–and STAY that way until she’s satisfied. If you can give that to her, she will NOT be concerned about your size.


Now that we have a different way to think about what makes sex great, maybe we can shift away from the “bigger is better” cliche.

I for one am tired of it. I want men to pay attention to the right things so that more women can receive the pleasure they’re aching for.

Here's exactly what I mean:

The #1 Key to F**king Her Deep (Even If You’re on the Smaller Side)…

I’ve got two words for you…

Max. Hardness.

Because yes, women generally DO love when you f**k them deep… but it’s not because of how far in her you can go.

It’s because of how FULL you make her feel when you’re inside her.

Like… are you penetrating her with a soggy noodle, or a stiff rod?

Even if you don’t have much girth… the harder you can get,

… because more hardness means more sensation in her vagina, plain and simple.

(It's kind of hard to describe, but as a woman I really CAN feel a guy's hardness inside me… it's always the most intense right before he's about to come… I LOVE it!!)

Not to mention as a woman, when a guy can get rock-hard for me it’s a HUGE turn-on…

It makes me feel suuuuuper sexy and wanted… and I also just love the way it looks to be honest. ????

All my hot girlfriends and I agree… we’d MUCH rather have sex with a rock-hard smaller penis, than a half-hard bigger one… it just feels kinda “blah” when a guy can’t get it up all the way.

So if you really want to f**k her deep, get as hard as humanly possible, and make the most of what you’ve got *down there*…


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