Study: Why 95% of Men Don’t Have the Sex Life They Want (The Truth)

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Study: Why 95% of Men Don’t Have the Sex Life They Want (The Truth)

Discover The Bizarre Link Between Stress and Sex–And How to Use This to Get the Sex Life You Truly Deserve (At Any Age)…

Are you 100% satisfied with your sex life as it is?

For most men, the answer is a resounding “No, not really.”

A lot of guys tend to internalize this issue — they think that the reason they aren't satisfied with their sex life has to do with them:

  • “I'm just not that attractive to enough women…”
  • “I'm not ‘big enough' down there…”
  • “Sex just isn't one of my priorities right now…”

And so on.

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But what if the reason you aren't satisfied with your sex life has less to do with you… and more to do with an outside factor?

According to this new study, that's exactly the case. And here's why:

Does Stress Really Affect Your Sex Life That Much?

Any woman who has been with her man in the car when he gets lost will tell you that his level of appeal goes dramatically up or down depending on how he handles the situation.

And according to this new study, there's a scientific explanation behind it too.

The study found that female rats were less attracted to male rats who were “submissive” as a result of childhood stress — the female rats could sense it somehow.

However, if a male rat had experienced childhood stress, but acted dominant toward the female rat, then the female rat found him more attractive. So she'd be more likely to pick that male rat, even over another rat who acted “normal” but didn't experience any childhood stress.

What exactly does this mean?

While it's true that you and I aren't rats, there is a very clear link between stress and your sex life. And it explains why 95% of men probably aren't living their “ideal” sex life.

So if you're feeling stressed, and aren't sure how to overcome it, what can you do?

It Doesn’t End There…

The key is to appear calm, cool, and collected… even if you aren’t feeling that way on the inside.

Whether for a hookup or for a relationship, most women will say that a confident man who can handle the pressure is way more worthy of her attention.

You may be really pissed off that a waiter brought you the wrong order, or that your phone service is crap…

You may want to rant about it or yell at a manager…

Just know that when you do that, you risk losing your sex appeal.

You can and should get good service. But be assertive, not a jerk.

An assertive man is sexy as hell.

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If you had some serious stressors in your childhood, do whatever you need to do to deal with them and move on. An unresolved past will rear

Whether it's therapy or meditation, there are a lot of ways to handle your stress without exploding in front of a woman.

Plus, stress also makes you look older — and not in a good way.

The stress hormone, cortisol, can actually stunt muscle and bone growth and make you fatter. These characteristics will definitely make a person less physically attractive.

When you can overcome your stresses, you have much better odds of being with a good woman. When you demonstrate that you can remain unstressed even under pressure, your odds increase even more.

So with that in mind, here are three quick and easy ways to reduce your stress (and don't worry — I'm not about to suggest you take a yoga class):

1) Develop a “Mantra”

It sounds corny, but one of the easiest ways to instantly de-stress is to close your eyes and repeat a familiar phrase that calms you down.

Find something that works for you.

Here are a few popular ones:

  • “I am cool, calm, and collected”…
  • “Today, I can handle any situation that comes my way”…
  • “I am The Man”…

You might feel silly repeating these things out loud, but it works wonders for a lot of guys.

Because repetition is one of the easiest ways to “level out” and stay calm, what you say doesn't matter as much as the fact that you're saying the same thing over and over.

So find a sentence that speaks to you, and repeat it 10 times each morning. Over time, this will help reduce your stress.

2) Recognize What You Can & Cannot Change in a Situation

Is the loud music in the bar stressing you out?

Think about your options:

Sure, you could yell about it or get drunk to feel calmer…

Or you could find a bar with a more reasonable noise level.

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Choose to remove yourself from situations that stress you out, and you’ll naturally become more attractive to women.

Sometimes, it really is that simple.



3) Keep Your Work Life & Your Home Life Separate

For a lot of men, work is one of the biggest stressors. So if your job is stressing you out, let it go as soon as you leave the office (or wherever your workplace might be).

And if you work at home, try working somewhere else, like a cafe or a community workspace — this will help you truly relax when you're at home and off the clock.

It’s not easy, and it will take practice, but eventually you’ll appreciate the free time you do have, and you’ll be less stressed.

Here's the truth: Women want a man to be able to easily adapt to a stressful situation.

She needs to know that when she starts crying about a bad day at work, or if she's miserable because she can’t fit into her favorite pair of jeans, that you will remain reassuring and confident.

RESEARCH REVEALS:

When the car won’t start…

The internet crashes…

Your dog gets sick…

Whatever — you are her rock.

Which brings me to my personal favorite way to de-stress, & make sure that the sex you do have is freaking amazing…

4) Eat The “Sex Snack” for Peak Performance in the Bedroom

When my husband is feeling really stressed… and I want to make him feel better (& treat him to a night of mind-blowing sex)…

I feed him a little something I like to call the

I first learned about it during some “private internet time” one night (lol)… I was googling my favorite pornstar, Dave Cummings… when I came across

Dave’s an older guy… but he refuses to take any weird “prescriptions” or sketchy “drugs” before sex… so he’s come to rely on this “sex snack” as a way to get hard, & stay hard… sometimes for hours at a time.

I’ll admit my husband gave me a preeeetty funny look the first time I made it for him… though a few hours later… when he turned to me in bed, and asked, “Ready for round three, baby?”

I knew the “sex snack” had worked its magic. ???? You can get the recipe here–you’re gonna love it:

[Note: This post was updated by Gotham Club on June 19, 2019.]

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For a lot of guys, the swinger life is something one can only achieve in the movies.

However, the truth is, trading partners–or bringing someone new into the bedroom–remains a fantasy for many men in our community.

So that’s what I want to talk to you about today.

Hi, I’m Glenn Pearce–and as part of my new series, Ask Glenn, I’m answering all of your most difficult, burning questions that keep you up at night.

And today, I’m answering this one:

“How do I get started in the swinger life and community if I’ve never done it before?”

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This next question is from Fidelio. Fidelio says:

Hey Glenn, my wife and I wanna get into swinging. Do you have any experience with this?

If so, where can we start?

I don't wanna end up with some unattractive girl while my wife gets railed by some Handsome Dan from across the room. You know?”

Alright, Fidelio. I bet your concern is the same as a lot of men who are just getting started with swinging.

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And here's what I have to say about it:

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Why Your Biggest Concern Probably Isn't Much of a Concern At All…

So first of all, what exactly is the swinger life?

The truth is, there is no one-size-fits-all definition I can give you, because there are so many different approaches to this unique lifestyle.

The main idea is that you have one primary partner but one or the two of you engage in agreed-upon sexual exploits beyond just the two of you.

Here are some of the popular swinging styles:

INSIDER SECRETS:

    • Swapping: You and your sweetheart make friends with a pretty sexy couple–next thing you know you’re trading partners!
    • Threesomes: Two men and a lady or two ladies and a man or all one gender–doesn’t matter, this is an exhilarating way to explore a relationship.
    • Groups: More than three people interacting sexually–the possible dynamics are endless!
    • Cuckolding: If your partner were to consent to you sleeping with someone else and wanted to watch–or hear about it from you after! This one requires a lot of communication and trust.
    • Monogamish style swinging:

Beyond that, pretty much any agreed-upon sexual activity that happens outside of a primary relationship can qualify as swinging.

However, you don't need to have a primary partner or primary relationship to consider yourself a “swinger,” or enjoy the perks of “The Lifestyle.”

I do have a little bit of experience with swinging, Fidelio, but not a ton.

First, let me address the second part of your question–“I don't wanna end up with some unattractive girl while my wife gets railed by Handsome Dan.”

That's not gonna happen.

Swinging is about swinging with other couples and other people.

Typically, Handsome Dan is gonna be with a hot, beautiful Barbarella-type girl. You're not gonna really have to worry about getting an ugly girl while your wife is with a super-handsome guy.

It's very rare that really handsome guys are f***ing, or swinging, with really ugly girls. That's just the way it is.

So if you get in that situation–if the guy is really good-looking–then the woman he's with is probably gonna be really good-looking too.

Where Do Swingers Really Go to Meet Up?

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You might be wondering where to meet these kinds of people in the first place.

Well, there are swing clubs. There are chat groups.

(If you're in a swing club and a girl gives you on of these signs, she'd DTF.)

Every city and every town in America will have chat groups, swing clubs, swing bars and swingers.

You can start by going on Facebook and or Google and flat-out looking for groups that are into “swinging” or “the lifestyle.”

That's because a lot of these parties are going to be at private homes.

For the ones that aren't… Fetlife is another option.

It's a site dedicated to all kinds of kinky sh*t, including where to find swinger clubs and the like… or at least it was last time I was on it.

Usually there are quite a few more private, “upscale” swinger's groups in your town also. Hell for all you know, your next door neighbor and his hot wife are into “the lifestyle”…

Every town has like-minded people, so you should be able to find people in your area that are swingers.

But the way you broach it? THAT's the important part (and more on that in a second)

Now are you gonna find good-looking swingers?

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Are you gonna find couples that you actually want to be with and want to be with your wife?

I don't know.

Let me give you a hypothetical situation for a second:

Let's just say the reverse situation happens–let's say this super-hot girl is with some dude who you think is ugly.

Are you gonna be OK with being in the situation where you f**k this hot girl, and your wife f**ks some ugly dude?

I would be wary of jumping into this situation unless you and the woman you're with are extremely comfortable with it. And I would ease into it if you can.

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How To “Ease” Her Into Swinging (If She's Hesitant)

To ease her into swinging, maybe bring another woman into the bedroom a couple times first…

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…then maybe bring another man into the bedroom.

That way,  it's not just a total swapping thing right away.

Of course, if you're like a lot of guys, then bringing up the subject of swinging with a woman might seem a little bit… “difficult.”

I get it.

But did you know that there's a way to tell if a woman might be open to swinging with you… without asking her?

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How Many Women Are Willing To “Swing”? The Truth Might Surprise You…

In my experience, there are .. but won't admit it until you bring it up.

I call these women “secret swingers.”

Now, most of these “secret swingers” look pretty normal…

It's not like they dress skimpy, or walk around with a sign that says “I want to f**k you!” or “I'm down to have lots of s*x with hot strangers” on it…

And in fact many of them look like the women you probably see at work, or during your commute…

… though there ARE some telltale signs you can look for, that reveal when a woman is a “secret swinger,” and is interested in you.

Once you know these… it'll be a lot easier to find hot girls who are “DTS” (“Down to Swing”)…

…and even if you're in a relationship… if you bring two girls with you to a swinger's party… well sh*t, you'll be the life of the party now won't you?

If you see a woman do any of these things with her body, then it means she's very likely kinky & DTF you (and whatever other women you might be with):

[Note: This post was updated by Gotham Club on March 4, 2020.]

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