Woman Has Genius Advice To Shut Down Men Who Make Lewd Comments

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Woman Has Genius Advice To Shut Down Men Who Make Lewd Comments

In a perfect world, women could exist without fear of catcalling, assault, or worse. But we’re in the real world. And unfortunately, that means women have had to merely adapt. 

So, we hold our keys in our fingers Wolverine-style. We buy bedazzled pepper spray and decorative brass knuckles. While these work great for physical assaults, what about the verbal ones? 

Heather Thompson Day came up with the perfect solution to unsolicited, lewd comments. Ladies, take notes—you’re going to want to use this one.

My Dad Just Told Me, ‘Never Laugh’

Twitter user Heather Thompson Day’s genius advice garnered over 120,000 retweets and 500,000 likes. “When I was 19, my boss said I should be a phone sex operator and laughed,” she began. 

“I said, ‘I don’t get it.’ He said, ‘it’s a joke.’ I said, ‘explain it to me,’” Day recalled. “And that’s how I learned that once sexual harassers have to explain why their inappropriate jokes are funny, they stop laughing.” 

Day explained that her boss at a radio station, a man 30 years her senior, made the comments. Lots of users also shared similar stories. Many were amazed Day came up with the idea at only 19. That she attributes to her dad.

“My dad just told me, ‘never laugh,’” Day wrote. “They will mistake your nervous laughter as compliance.” 

“Instead, pretend you don’t get it and watch them explain to you why you should be laughing. I’ve used this advice my whole life since.”

A Catch-All Comeback

Catcalling is an international problem. In an infuriating UN study, 90% of men said they catcalled women “for fun.” Other reasons included “boredom” and “male bonding.” 

Alright, has everyone completed their 360-degree eye roll with me? Good—let’s move on. Day’s method shifts the focus back to the commenter. It forces the harasser to either deflect or admit to their true intention: harassment. 

One Reddit user says this method works on all types of adults. “It was taught to me as the ‘three whys.’ You can simply ask, ‘why?’ But finding different words or phrases is good, too.”

“For whatever reason,” they continue, “after three requests for explanation, almost all answers will have to be, ‘because I’m racist/sexist/homophobic/a plain f—ing a–hole, etc.”

Beat Them At Their Own Game

Indeed, sometimes the best solution is to make them feel as uncomfortable as they’re making you. For too long, women have been encouraged to sweep inappropriate comments under the rug. 

But those days are over. Make them explain. Put them on the spot and promptly cut them down, as this NYC woman did beautifully (jump to :29). 

I’ve implemented all of these techniques. In fact, I also work at a radio station and have received similar comments about my potential as a phone sex operator. 

Unfortunately, the patriarchy isn’t going to tumble in a day. Until major societal changes occur, there will be those who feel entitled to harass others. 

So, in the end, you have to beat them at their own game. Trust me; they hate it.

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Dog The Bounty Hunter’s Daughter Says He Needs To ‘Back Off, Let FBI Handle It’

The prime suspect in Gabby Petito’s murder has Dog the Bounty Hunter hot on his tail.

Dog The Bounty Hunter’s Daughter Says He Needs To ‘Back Off, Let FBI Handle It’

The manhunt for Brian Laundrie is still in full swing. The prime suspect in Gabby Petito’s murder has Dog the Bounty Hunter hot on his tail. Not everyone is happy about this. Both his family and an FBI agent are urging him to go away. Here’s what’s going on.

Laundrie On The Run

Before Petito was even found, Dog inserted himself into this case. He made his way to Florida, Laundrie’s home state, and told reporters he’d received 2,000 tips. He also refused to share them with law enforcement. It’s worth noting that John Walsh is also asked for tips, so every big name in criminal hunting has their eyes locked on Laundrie.

Getting In The Way

Dog’s presence has become a bit of a distraction. He’s wading through Florida swamps but doesn’t appear any closer to actually apprehending anyone. Kevin Harrington, a former NYPD detective, told the New York Post: “Nobody in real law enforcement respects people in fake law enforcement.” 

A former FBI agent says Dog could be getting in the way. “He sounds like he’s going out there trying to dig around for information that could, at times, sabotage what law enforcement is doing…Often, it’s not helpful to law enforcement techniques and operations.” Even Dog’s own family is urging him to leave this one alone. His daughter, Cecily Chapman, says, “he needs to back off and let the FBI handle it.”

He’s Not Backing Down

Against the wishes of his family and law enforcement, Dog is not going to walk away from this case. He recently returned to his home in Colorado so he could see his doctor, but the setback is temporary. He still plans to follow up on his tips and believes Laundrie is out there.

The wading in swamps left Dog bruised, bloody and exhausted. Despite there being no active bounty, sources tell TMZ that Dog will absolutely return to Florida once he gets patched up. 

Craves Attention

This should come as no surprise. The Laundrie manhunt keeps Dog tethered to headlines, which is really what he lives on. He recently told the New York Times, “I need the attention. I wake up every day and say, ‘Mirror, mirror on the wall, who’s the baddest bounty hunter of them all?”

Whether or not Dog the Bounty Hunter can apprehend Laundrie before the FBI remains to be seen. The death of Petito means Laundrie will likely face a litany of charges once he’s captured.

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